- Think about what you want before you get into a sexual situation and communicate clearly. If you’re not sure what your date wants, ask.
- Be open and honest. Tell your date “yes” or “no” and clearly give consent to sexual activity you want to engage in.
- Be assertive. Your feelings are valid and you have the right to express them. Think about what you really want and say it.
- If your date doesn’t tell you what sexual behavior they want to engage in, stop and ask. Don’t continue until you hear a clear and confident “yes.”
- Respect “yes” and “no.” Stop if you hear “no” and have fun if you hear “yes.” As sexual intimacy increases, continue communicating with your date.
- Trust your instincts and feelings. If you feel uncomfortable, stop and try to get out of the situation or away from the person and to a public place.
- Be aware alcohol and drugs make you more vulnerable and sexual behavior risky. Be sexual when you and your date are sober.
- Make a scene, a few minutes of embarrassment is worth feeling safe.
Signs of a healthy/positive relationship
A healthy/positive relationship depends on key elements that clearly express who we are and how we want to be treated in the relationship. It’s important that we learn to identify a healthy/positive relationship from a harmful one.