PAAR is here 24/7, at 1-866-END-RAPE
(1-866-363-7273). Interpreters available.
It can be difficult to think clearly if you, or someone you know, has been the victim of sexual violence and abuse. Take a deep breath, and know PAAR is here to help you.
Risk Reduction and Safer Communities
Safety tips for you:
- Use open and honest communication
- Get consent for any and all sexual activity
- Respect “no”
- Stick together – make sure everyone gets home safely
- Limit alcohol and know your limits
- Be informed – most of the time people are hurt by someone they know and trust
- Challenge victim-blaming:
- “It’s never the victim’s fault.”
- “No one asks to be raped.”
- “It doesn’t matter what you wear, where you went or what you did.”
If someone you love has been hurt:
- “I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s not your fault.”
- “I believe you. I’m really glad you told me.”
- “What can I do to help?”
- “Let’s call PAAR together – 1-866-END-RAPE”
Safety tips for Communities
- Recognize sexually aggressive and violent behavior and intervene
- Speak out against gender stereotypes and promote equality
- Challenge sexist jokes, rumors, comments and emails
- Promote a safe and respectful community
- Believe and support survivors of sexual violence
- Talk about safety – invite PAAR to speak at you school, church or community organization.
- Volunteer at PAAR
- Call or write politicians to support programs working to stop sexual violence
- Ask your library to host an internet safety class.
- Support PAAR’s work and donate to the cause or have a fundraiser.
Safety tips for Children:
Adults are responsible for the protection and care of children. Adults should be familiar with warning signs for potential offenders and watch for those behaviors. Adults should routinely talk with children about body safety and uncomfortable touches. Believe children if they talk about uncomfortable touches or uncomfortable feelings with adults or teens.
Do not leave children with adults you don’t know or just met. Get references or ask to speak with other families the caregiver/babysitter has worked for before leaving your children in that person’s care.
Teach children about body safety, uncomfortable touches and the importance of talking with you if they ever feel uncomfortable.
A child is never to blame or at fault for not telling. It is always adults’ responsibilities to protect and care for children.
Offenders often start by using special attention to trick a child into trusting them and then violate that trust with words and touches. Please be aware of warning signs of an abuser:
- Insists on hugging, tickling, wrestling
- Comments on sexuality or sexual development of child
- Too much time alone with child
- Most of spare time spent with children
- Regularly offers to baby-sit many children for free
- Buys children gifts/gives money for no reason
- Walks in on children in bathroom or while changing– invasion of privacy
Stand up for your child. Support your child if he/she asks for someone to stop.
- “Becca doesn’t feel like giving you a hug now.”
- “Andre doesn’t want to sit on your lap.”
What child victims need:
- “I believe you and I’m glad you told me.”
- “I’m proud of you for telling me.”
- “You did the right thing by telling me.”
- To hear that it is not his/her fault.
- “I’m really sorry that happened to you.”
- “I want you to know it is not your fault.”
- “You didn’t do anything wrong.”
- “You are not bad.”